God Knows

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God Knows


Guest Post by Kris Williams


The aging process is inevitable. Today’s post deals with a difficult topic: being the best caregiver you can be to an aging loved one.
I’m thankful for my friend, Kris Williams who gives us insight and God’s wisdom on this subject.


It seems impossible that a loving God would allow our aging parents to spend the last years of their lives without memory of the life they’ve lived or the people they’ve loved. Yet He does… and we struggle. As dementia and diseases like Alzheimer’s take over, we say things like, “Dad’s fine. He doesn’t know what’s going on. I’m the one struggling.”
And it’s true, isn’t it? Once the disease takes hold, it’s the caregiver who struggles

A Real Battle


We struggle because the role of caregiver brings with it much more than just giving care. We grieve the loss of the person we love. This person we shared our life with leaves us long before they are actually gone, and we grieve that loss daily… but we don’t just deal with grief.
We become frustrated with daily struggles. Unrealistic expectations are placed on us by family members and friends. We feel helpless. We even feel resentment. These struggles are accompanied by huge amounts of guilt. Then Satan comes in and whispers things like “a good son would…” or “you should be able to…” and even “you are letting him/her down because…” and our souls are crushed.

The Burden


My heart aches for you, dear caregiver, because you carry a great burden. Your responsibility is to insure that your loved one receives the best care possible. There may come a time when you are unable to personally provide the best care, or when attempting to do so might cost you your own health…which will render you unable to carry out your responsibility. If this time comes, you may need to look into other options for care.
There are no words to describe how difficult these decisions are. Make them with your loved one’s health in mind. No matter the promises you made prior to disease claiming the mind and memory of the one you love, make choices that will result in him or her receiving the medical and personal care they need and deserve.

Real Hope


Many caregivers feel isolated and weary. Not one of us would choose their journey. There are lists on any number of websites that offer advice like “get enough sleep, eat a healthy diet, exercise and join a group of other caregivers who can offer you support,” but we already know these things. We need something more to give us hope on the darkest of days. That hope is: “God knows.”
Don’t believe Satan when he whispers, “You are alone.” God knows your struggle. God knows your loss. God knows your grief.  He knows your weariness. God knows the million times a day you wonder if you are doing this right.  He knows your anger, frustration, and all the other feelings that overwhelm you.
Could He have saved your loved one from this fate? Yes, I believe He could. I also believe that we live in a broken world and nothing will be perfect until we reach heaven. For whatever reason, God has allowed you to travel this road.

He’s With You


If you draw near to God, He will use this journey to reveal Himself to you and to grow your faith. Seek Him as you travel. He will guide you, comfort you, and give you the strength, wisdom, peace and grace you need for this journey.

God will not leave you. He has gone before you and prepared you for this road you are on.

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And the LORD, he it is that doth go before thee; he will be with thee, he will not fail thee, neither forsake thee: fear not, neither be dismayed. Deuteronomy 31:8

Your turn


Are you acting as a caregiver for one or both of your parents? Maybe you know someone in this role? What step will you take to encourage your heart in the Lord today?

Can I Pray For You?

Father God, Help us as we travel difficult roads. Help us to lean on You, to trust You and to follow You. Guide us as we make choices for the ones we love. Cover us in Your grace, wash over us with Your peace, and fill us with Your joy. Help us Lord. This journey is difficult. We are broken and battered. We need You. We need to know that You have not left us to travel this dark road on our own. Let us know that You are near. In Jesus’ name, Amen.

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Meet Kris

For we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness in high places. Ephesians 6:12

Kris Williams believes that life is a battle, our enemy is Satan, his goal is to destroy us, and our victory is in Christ alone. Her life is marked with battles. She battled anorexia, depression, and anxiety as a young woman. In her 30s she battled laryngeal cancer…twice. Each battle brought her closer to the heart of Christ, solidified her trust in Him, and deepened her desire to share the hope found only in Him.

Over the years, Kris has served in different areas of ministry. She has been a Big Sister with Big Brothers/Big Sisters of Mississippi, taught Sunday School, lead Children’s worship, spoken to ladies groups and served as the Ladies Ministry Coordinator in her church.

During her battle with cancer, she lost her voice and was unable to continue in the ministry roles she’d become comfortable with. God used this time to deepen her desire to share the love of Christ with those He continues to place in her path each day outside of formal ministries.

Now she looks for opportunities to share the love of Christ with women wherever she goes, and considers it pure joy to be able to pray with someone in need of Christ’s gentle touch. She believes in the power of mentoring and consistently asks God to send her women to invest in.

Kris is wife to Calvin and mom to Brian and Izzy.  She enjoys painting and woodworking and shares her day to day struggles and victories on her blog, aptly named “in-the-battle”.